I would like to share with you all what I am out to create in this world and why I am taking the powerful stand that I am.
Much of my life was spent having one or the other of my parents sick that included tension in the family and a couple major moves thrown in there when I was 13 and 16. I remember of my own accord slowly but surely giving up my passions to focus on what was happening in my family. I was always the little helper and I wanted nothing more than to help make things easier or even fix them. By the time I was in my mid twenties, I had a good job that paid me well that also required a significant amount of my time. My mom (she has Multiple Sclerosis) was also well on her way to being completely paralyzed. It took its toll on me in many areas of my life but mainly any time she would go into the hospital it would send me into a huge breakdown effecting my work, my relationships and my well being. I was being angry, sad, resentful of the situation, and helpless most of the time.
The turning point came when I was living in Canada for work for a year and my mom ended up in the hospital yet again. This turned into one of the biggest breakdowns I had about her illness. I spent a couple weeks crying all the time and not getting any of my work done. My bosses started to notice. I was walking around in a fog of depression. One of my bosses came into town shortly after and we went to lunch and naturally this came up. I was essentially told that I needed to set everything aside because we all have things happen in our lives and I am on the management team now. Don't get me wrong, I did need to set all of it aside but at that moment I realized I needed to and had to make a change in my life for my sanity, health and relationship with my family and others. With in 1 year I made one of the toughest decisions and I left. I left a job that was stable, paid me really well, and I enjoyed the people I worked with. I knew, however, that I was being called to something bigger.
Let's fast forward to today. As I sit here and write and think about where I was in my life even a year ago, I am amazed. I don't even recognize that person that I just wrote about. Through many different types of transformational work and the support of many many people in my life, I have been able to turn my life completely around. The biggest of those is how I am with my mother's illness. There are still some rough days but the angry, sad, resentful, and helpless me is a way of yesterday. Today I am able to handle it with power and grace and the most amazing one - relatedness to my mother. Instead of trying to fix her, or think something is wrong, or tell her how she "should be," I see her as whole, perfect and complete. How could she feel any other way than how she feels? The other day I was at dinner with a friend and she looked at me and said, "You are really at peace with your mom's illness, aren't you?" Wow. I am!! I am! I am!! It's like the train has arrived at it's destination! And the best part is that I have my mom back again. She is finally my mom to me again which I haven't let her be for years.
That same friend that acknowledged my peacefulness also told me that I needed to embrace the possibility of helping others in similar situations, situations that are difficult transitions. My sign and confirmation of this showed up shortly after this conversation on a trash can in New York City that said - "What are you doing to move it for MS?" I finally saw, literally, that my calling is to help people just like my family and to stand for their transformation of the difficult situations that we all experience in life. I obviously have a particular passion for those families that are dealing with MS.
I am out to create a world where families and individuals are empowered regardless of a disease. Where mother's and father's do not have to worry about how it will effect their children, and where children will not have to have their hearts broken seeing their parents lose their power. Like many say including Montel Williams, "I may have the disease, but the disease does not have me." I am passionate that all people dealing with these types of situations will be able to transform the experience into an empowered context and not stay stuck in the victim context. We all are here for a purpose, some more difficult than others, but those are the ones that are designed to really teach us and transform us and make this world a better place.
Won't you join me on this journey of freedom, power and love?
Until next time, I love you all!!
Kat
P.S. My world is starting with my family
Friday, April 2, 2010
Tuesday, March 16, 2010
The Transformed You = A Transformed World
When you are transformed the world around you cannot help but be transformed too. If I were a bettin’ gal I would guess right now you are thinking something along the lines of, “that is all fine and good and I know that, but I am the way I am and can’t possibly transform myself- I’ve tried!”
Does that belief really inspire you? I would probably guess no.
How would you like to create something inspiring in place of that old belief? Here’s the skinny on how to do just that and get on the road to a brand new and transformed YOU!
1. The voices in your head: Here is a secret – it’s NOT YOU! That is what we call your ego, or what I like to call your Negative Nelly/Ned. All there is to do is acknowledge those thoughts as they come up, get that they are not you, and let them go. Every time you hear those voices just say, “thanks Nelly/Ned for the input and have a nice day.”
2. Who are you going to be for the world?: The old way isn’t working right? So try something new! Next time Nelly/Ned is rambling on, take over and pick a new way to be. For example, if you are being stressed and worried you could ask yourself, “how would I be if I were being more care-free?” Viola! You will be a new way. Try it!
3. Creating new beliefs: I would like to introduce Positive Polly/Piper. By creating daily affirmations around how amazing and wonderful you are and telling yourself these affirmations consistently every day, you will find Nelly/Ned doesn’t come to visit as often. Now take a minute and notice what Nelly/Ned just told you. They probably are not being nice – it’s ok they like to fib. The truth is that you really are whole, perfect and complete!
Life is not meant to be so darn difficult. We do it to ourselves and when we try out new ways, stick with it and have accountability to it, it absolutely is possible to be transformed! And the icing on the cake – when you transform yourself the WHOLE world around you is transformed and impacted in big ways. You are that powerful! I promise.
If you would like to learn more on transforming your life and how it is possible, please contact me!
Lots of hugs and giggles!
Kat
kat@powerinfreedom.com
Does that belief really inspire you? I would probably guess no.
How would you like to create something inspiring in place of that old belief? Here’s the skinny on how to do just that and get on the road to a brand new and transformed YOU!
1. The voices in your head: Here is a secret – it’s NOT YOU! That is what we call your ego, or what I like to call your Negative Nelly/Ned. All there is to do is acknowledge those thoughts as they come up, get that they are not you, and let them go. Every time you hear those voices just say, “thanks Nelly/Ned for the input and have a nice day.”
2. Who are you going to be for the world?: The old way isn’t working right? So try something new! Next time Nelly/Ned is rambling on, take over and pick a new way to be. For example, if you are being stressed and worried you could ask yourself, “how would I be if I were being more care-free?” Viola! You will be a new way. Try it!
3. Creating new beliefs: I would like to introduce Positive Polly/Piper. By creating daily affirmations around how amazing and wonderful you are and telling yourself these affirmations consistently every day, you will find Nelly/Ned doesn’t come to visit as often. Now take a minute and notice what Nelly/Ned just told you. They probably are not being nice – it’s ok they like to fib. The truth is that you really are whole, perfect and complete!
Life is not meant to be so darn difficult. We do it to ourselves and when we try out new ways, stick with it and have accountability to it, it absolutely is possible to be transformed! And the icing on the cake – when you transform yourself the WHOLE world around you is transformed and impacted in big ways. You are that powerful! I promise.
If you would like to learn more on transforming your life and how it is possible, please contact me!
Lots of hugs and giggles!
Kat
kat@powerinfreedom.com
Wednesday, March 10, 2010
What would the world be like if we all kept our word 100% of the time?
Every time someone breaks their word it effects somebody somewhere and it lets them down in some way. That somebody may be a client, a friend, your significant other, a co worker or more often then not that somebody is YOU. The promise you gave could have been a big promise like "I will help fund your new business," or it could be a small promise like "I will call you back in 30 minutes." Either way when you give your word, you make a promise. You promise to be someone for that person and you promise to honor what you say. Take a moment and think of someone in your life that doesn't keep there word. How does it make you feel? How do you think it truly makes them feel?
Now the bigger question. Do YOU want to be known as a person that keeps their word or one that can not be counted on? I bet I know the answer. You want to be a person of your word! I know I do! Let's look at three ways to keep your word.
1. Do what you say you will do and do what you know to do. If you promise someone that you will do something. Do it! Now when it gets to that day or time and you don't feel like doing it, do it anyway. Also, do the things you know to do even if you didn't say you would do it.
2. Don't make promises you know you can't keep. We have all heard the saying, "under promise and over deliver." There really is something to this. So the next time you need to deliver on something, be reasonable. Don't say something to please someone because you think that is what they want to hear. You will gain much more respect by being truthful and delivering when you say you will.
3. Communicate!! Re-promise ONLY when necessary. It is important not to use this one too much. But if the time comes and you realize you can not do what you said you would do, get in communication immediately and make a new promise that you know for sure you can deliver on.
As I am sure you are starting to gather, when you become a person of your word it empowers you and everyone around you. You create stronger relationships in every aspect of your life and life gets simpler. You also become a person of influence and begin to change your community because you are change. Pretty powerful stuff huh? All by just doing what you said you would do and doing what you know to do.
If you would like to learn more about being in integrity and a person of your word, please contact me! I would be honored to partner with you to hold you accountable to what you say you will do.
With Love! Freedom! Power!
Kat
kat@powerinfreedom.com
214.422.4695
Now the bigger question. Do YOU want to be known as a person that keeps their word or one that can not be counted on? I bet I know the answer. You want to be a person of your word! I know I do! Let's look at three ways to keep your word.
1. Do what you say you will do and do what you know to do. If you promise someone that you will do something. Do it! Now when it gets to that day or time and you don't feel like doing it, do it anyway. Also, do the things you know to do even if you didn't say you would do it.
2. Don't make promises you know you can't keep. We have all heard the saying, "under promise and over deliver." There really is something to this. So the next time you need to deliver on something, be reasonable. Don't say something to please someone because you think that is what they want to hear. You will gain much more respect by being truthful and delivering when you say you will.
3. Communicate!! Re-promise ONLY when necessary. It is important not to use this one too much. But if the time comes and you realize you can not do what you said you would do, get in communication immediately and make a new promise that you know for sure you can deliver on.
As I am sure you are starting to gather, when you become a person of your word it empowers you and everyone around you. You create stronger relationships in every aspect of your life and life gets simpler. You also become a person of influence and begin to change your community because you are change. Pretty powerful stuff huh? All by just doing what you said you would do and doing what you know to do.
If you would like to learn more about being in integrity and a person of your word, please contact me! I would be honored to partner with you to hold you accountable to what you say you will do.
With Love! Freedom! Power!
Kat
kat@powerinfreedom.com
214.422.4695
Friday, March 5, 2010
Sayin' it straight
Have you ever noticed how many times you don't say something because you fear the persons reaction, don't want to deal with "conflict", don't want to sound stupid, don't want to sound rude or offend someone, or just don't think anyone cares what you have to say? The excuses can go on endlessly. But all it goes back to is us simply being inauthentic and making the decision that we "just know how they will react."
What I challenge you to look at is that we CREATE all of that. Yes, we create the outcome of every conversation and reaction - even of others. Pretty crazy huh? Think about it, if you go home knowing you have to have a serious discussion regarding something and you tell yourself that you know how the other person is going to react, don't they almost always react that way? It is not because that is just how they are, you are creating it! You are either making yourself wrong, making a decision about them, making a decision for them or have a need to be right.
Next time you have to have a serious conversation or find yourself wanting to say something you just don't think you should say - Just say it coming from a place of authenticity. Let go of all that chatter in your mind saying, they will think I am stupid, they will get mad, they won't like me, they will be offended, I need to prove a point blah blah BLAH. Give it ALL up! You will be astounded by your results!!
So this week give it a try. Be powerful in your communication, give up being right, give up others liking you and BE YOU! We are all unique and beautiful. OH and the best part is we are ALL WHOLE, PERFECT AND COMPLETE!!! Please share how it goes.
I love you all!! Big hugs and kisses!!
MUAHHHH
Kat
What I challenge you to look at is that we CREATE all of that. Yes, we create the outcome of every conversation and reaction - even of others. Pretty crazy huh? Think about it, if you go home knowing you have to have a serious discussion regarding something and you tell yourself that you know how the other person is going to react, don't they almost always react that way? It is not because that is just how they are, you are creating it! You are either making yourself wrong, making a decision about them, making a decision for them or have a need to be right.
Next time you have to have a serious conversation or find yourself wanting to say something you just don't think you should say - Just say it coming from a place of authenticity. Let go of all that chatter in your mind saying, they will think I am stupid, they will get mad, they won't like me, they will be offended, I need to prove a point blah blah BLAH. Give it ALL up! You will be astounded by your results!!
So this week give it a try. Be powerful in your communication, give up being right, give up others liking you and BE YOU! We are all unique and beautiful. OH and the best part is we are ALL WHOLE, PERFECT AND COMPLETE!!! Please share how it goes.
I love you all!! Big hugs and kisses!!
MUAHHHH
Kat
Friday, January 22, 2010
Making Your Goals Happen!
Hello my friends,
2010 is in full swing and have you set your goals yet?? We all have some type of goals that we have for ourselves. Maybe it is to lose weight, get a new car, find a new job, buy a home, write a book, learn Spanish etc. We all have them in some form.
How often do we actually accomplish our goals? We may start out nice and strong for the first couple weeks of the year then something derails us and we never really get back on track.
Here are a few quick tips to help you accomplish those goals:
1. Write them down - Writing down your goals sends a message out to the Universe that you are serious about accomplishing your goals.
2. Set Completion Dates - Next to each goal write down a date and TIME that you will complete the goal by. Adding the date and time makes that intention with the Universe even stronger. You begin immediately attracting your goal!
3. Make them visible - Put them in a place that you will see them every day. I was talking with someone yesterday that said she carries around a notebook with her goals in that she looks at daily. This is a great idea! You could also do things like hang them on the fridge, or on the mirror. You can even get creative and do things like hang pictures above your bed of $100,000 if your goal is to make that amount this year. Get creative! Live your dreams and goals!
4. Accountability Partner- Find someone that is going to hold you accountable to your goals. I recommend someone that is not super close to you that would allow you to sluff or let you justify it if you do. It could be someone like a Life Coach, Personal Trainer, Mentor, etc. Set up times to touch base with them weekly or multiple times weekly if needed.
5. Keep going - If you get off track for a bit, do not let that discourage you. Don't make yourself wrong. Just get back up and keep going! You can accomplish anything you set your mind on! I promise!
I read in The Success Principles by Jack Canfield that when you do some of the items above and make your goals a part of your daily life your mind will begin finding the ways to get you there. It may not always be the way you anticipated, but you will get there. It's similar to when you buy something you start noticing all of a sudden everyone else that has it too.
What are your goals? I would love to hear and help support you in accomplishing those goals and making 2010 the best year yet!
Love! Freedom! Power!
Kat
Kat Kirkwood
Life Coach
Ph: 214.422.4695
Website: www.powerinfreedom.com
email: kat@powerinfreedom.com
2010 is in full swing and have you set your goals yet?? We all have some type of goals that we have for ourselves. Maybe it is to lose weight, get a new car, find a new job, buy a home, write a book, learn Spanish etc. We all have them in some form.
How often do we actually accomplish our goals? We may start out nice and strong for the first couple weeks of the year then something derails us and we never really get back on track.
Here are a few quick tips to help you accomplish those goals:
1. Write them down - Writing down your goals sends a message out to the Universe that you are serious about accomplishing your goals.
2. Set Completion Dates - Next to each goal write down a date and TIME that you will complete the goal by. Adding the date and time makes that intention with the Universe even stronger. You begin immediately attracting your goal!
3. Make them visible - Put them in a place that you will see them every day. I was talking with someone yesterday that said she carries around a notebook with her goals in that she looks at daily. This is a great idea! You could also do things like hang them on the fridge, or on the mirror. You can even get creative and do things like hang pictures above your bed of $100,000 if your goal is to make that amount this year. Get creative! Live your dreams and goals!
4. Accountability Partner- Find someone that is going to hold you accountable to your goals. I recommend someone that is not super close to you that would allow you to sluff or let you justify it if you do. It could be someone like a Life Coach, Personal Trainer, Mentor, etc. Set up times to touch base with them weekly or multiple times weekly if needed.
5. Keep going - If you get off track for a bit, do not let that discourage you. Don't make yourself wrong. Just get back up and keep going! You can accomplish anything you set your mind on! I promise!
I read in The Success Principles by Jack Canfield that when you do some of the items above and make your goals a part of your daily life your mind will begin finding the ways to get you there. It may not always be the way you anticipated, but you will get there. It's similar to when you buy something you start noticing all of a sudden everyone else that has it too.
What are your goals? I would love to hear and help support you in accomplishing those goals and making 2010 the best year yet!
Love! Freedom! Power!
Kat
Kat Kirkwood
Life Coach
Ph: 214.422.4695
Website: www.powerinfreedom.com
email: kat@powerinfreedom.com
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