Don't Worry, Be Happy

I can just hear the song in my head now while I picture Tom Cruise in Cocktail on the beach in Jamaica. It's a very catchy tune and at the same time so obvious and so profound. Seems so simple right?

I know for me personally this used to be one of those things people would say to me that would make my blood boil. I would sit there and think, "I don't want to be happy", "I am upset right now", "I have every right to feel how I feel", and on and on I would make up my justifications for why I was making myself miserable. Truth was, I was doing it to myself!

I look back on those times now and realize that anyone can free themselves from that way of thinking. If I can do it, trust me anyone can do it. I used to have people always tell me in some way or another, "you worry too much." Oh how that would get under my skin too. Now I find myself laughing in my heart when someone tells me not to worry because honestly that is not a word or way of being I know any longer.

There are many practices and methods that led me to this place in a rather short time period, and I will attribute them to the following:

1. Getting a Life Coach to hold me accountable

2. Practicing new ways of being (relaxed, free, joyful, charismatic. etc/)

3. Creating affirmations (Nothing is Wrong, Everything is PERFECT, I am carefree, etc)

4. DETERMINATION and Consistency

I will spare you from explaining again what life coaching is and isn't - please refer to my previous blog.

Now you may be asking yourself, what in the world does she mean by practicing new ways of being?? This is something that I learned from my coach and it had a profound impact on me and I love to share it with others now. It simply means you CHOOSE how you want to be to the world. If you are stressed, practice being relaxed. If you are anxious, practice being care free. If you are irritable, practice being loving or accepting. If you are sad, practice being joyful. You get the idea. We have the choice to choose how we will be. We may not FEEL that way at this moment but as the song goes, don't worry, be happy! You will find that before long your feelings will catch up with your way of being. It really works!

Creating affirmations. Affirmations are those things in our head that we tell ourselves and they in turn become our realities. Often times what we tell ourselves are negative things. Spend the next several days "watching" your thoughts and what you tell yourself. Then create affirmations that are the opposite. For example, if you tell yourself that you will never be good enough, create an affirmation that says "I am perfect just the way I am." If you tell yourself that you are boring, start telling yourself, "I am fun and charismatic!" It only takes 17 seconds for a thought to become your reality. Once you begin telling yourself positive affirmations over and over again all day long it will soon become your reality. You create a new TRUTH for yourself. Because the truth is all that other "stuff" is not the truth. You are PERFECT just how you are!!!

Last but not least... stick with it! Your ego will start telling you all kinds of things because it is being threatened and doesn't want you to feel good about yourself. By sticking with it and being determined, you will squash your ego and create that new reality for yourself. If I can do it... trust me, you can do it too!!

Who are you going to BE for the world? I am Love! Freedom! Power! for the world and for all of you.

Thank you for reading! I am thankful for each of you!

With Love! Freedom! Power!

Kat